Bullying is a plague just like any other horrible disease. It’s hiding in the shadows tell it can find you or someone like you with their guard down their immune system not working at full capacity and attack. And, once it knows your weakness it’ll continue attacking until you do something to strengthen your guard/immune system, and fight off the Bully. But, don’t let your guard down in the future because this disease will return.
Where do children that Bully others come from anyway, where does this disease get started? Do these kids, this plague, just wake up one morning with a mean-streak, a chip on their shoulders, a burning desire to torment someone?
I don’t think so-I’m pretty sure there created by the very people that have been put in charge of raising them to be loving, productive, functional adults someday. . . their family, and if the family didn’t create this plague on society than they certainly ignored the child enough for someone else to create it. Didn’t you learn your rights and wrongs from those around you? Your father, mother, and older siblings that set the living examples that you saw, heard, and felt each day.
What are the odds you will become a Bully if. . . . your father was pushy, aggressive, and a perfectionist, got his way with the air of a dictator, your mother got things done around the house by yelling and shouting threats of what would happen if you and your siblings didn’t obey, you’re older siblings got away with tease, hit, and torment you and your parents intervening with a shout to “Stop, leave your brother/sister alone”, and a back hand slap to drive the point home that they were serious. What are the odds, I think hugh, I think you have two choices in this family, join the Bullies or be the Bullied.
So that actually means that this child that has become the Bully, the disease, the plague on those around him/her, was once the child with their guard down, the immune system not at full capacity, and the people in charge of helping this child get better, and stay health abused them. This particular disease was cultivated in the Family Petri Dish the same way a germ is cultivated in a laboratory.
I think we have a giant problem on our hands;
a) We need rules and laws to protect and keep our children healthy from the Disease/Bullies that are out there right now.
b) Those rules and laws have to come from some of the very adults/parents that created the disease and are still sick themselves.
c) We need people willing to enforce those rules and laws.
d) Asking someone that is sick to help stop the very disease they have is like asking an alcoholic to cure themselves, very few can or do most of the time someone health has to step in.
What are the chances these adults (that have some form of the disease themselves) will admit their wrong, accept the responsibility and help stomp out this disease.
Slim, No . . . . Very Slim, why do you thing this disease has become an epidemic. That means just like ridding the world of Polio, Small Pox and other disease that have plagued the world the healthy have to step up and do more, do everything they can to make up for all the sick that can’t step up, don’t know how to step up, or don’t even see a problem.
Can the sick adults be saved, should we concentrate our efforts on them or the children?
I think Mahatma Gandhi said it best;
"If we are to teach real peace in this world, and if we are to carry on a real war against war, we shall have to begin with the children."
Stay Health and Strong
Pat
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Friday, January 30, 2009
What are we missing???
I found this story to be so fascinating that I had to post it - also for you skeptics, I checked it out on snopes.com and it is true.
A man sat at a metro station in Washington DC and started to play the violin; it was a cold January morning. He played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time, since it was rush hour, it was calculated that thousands of people went through the station, most of them on their way to work.
Three minutes went by and a middle aged man noticed there was musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried up to meet his schedule. A minute later, the violinist received his first dollar tip: a woman threw the money in the till and without stopping continued to walk. A few minutes later, someone leaned against the wall to listen to him, but the man looked at his watch and started to walk again. Clearly he was late for work.
The one who paid the most attention was a 3 year old boy. His mother moved him along, hurried but the kid stopped to look at the violinist. Finally the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. All the parents, without exception, forced them to move on.
In the 45 minutes the musician played, only 6 people stopped and stayed for a while. About 20 gave him money but continued to walk their normal pace. He collected $32. When he finished playing and silence took over, no one noticed it. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition.
No one knew this but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the best musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written with a violin worth 3.5 million dollars. Two days before his playing in the subway, Joshua Bell sold out at a theater in Boston and the seats average price was $100.
Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and priorities of people.
The outlines were - in a commonplace environment at an inappropriate hour:
• Do we perceive beauty?
• Do we stop to appreciate it?
• Do we recognize the talent in an unexpected context?
One of the possible conclusions from this experience could be:
• If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world playing the best music ever written, on a 3.5 million dollar instrument, how many other things are we missing?
As adults you hear people say - I need to get back to my roots, get in touch with who I really am. Maybe all we're really saying is what happen to the child in me, when and where'd I leave him behind. And . . . how do I get my child back???
He hasn't gone anywhere, you're just to damn busy to play!!!
A man sat at a metro station in Washington DC and started to play the violin; it was a cold January morning. He played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time, since it was rush hour, it was calculated that thousands of people went through the station, most of them on their way to work.
Three minutes went by and a middle aged man noticed there was musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried up to meet his schedule. A minute later, the violinist received his first dollar tip: a woman threw the money in the till and without stopping continued to walk. A few minutes later, someone leaned against the wall to listen to him, but the man looked at his watch and started to walk again. Clearly he was late for work.
The one who paid the most attention was a 3 year old boy. His mother moved him along, hurried but the kid stopped to look at the violinist. Finally the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. All the parents, without exception, forced them to move on.
In the 45 minutes the musician played, only 6 people stopped and stayed for a while. About 20 gave him money but continued to walk their normal pace. He collected $32. When he finished playing and silence took over, no one noticed it. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition.
No one knew this but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the best musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written with a violin worth 3.5 million dollars. Two days before his playing in the subway, Joshua Bell sold out at a theater in Boston and the seats average price was $100.
Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and priorities of people.
The outlines were - in a commonplace environment at an inappropriate hour:
• Do we perceive beauty?
• Do we stop to appreciate it?
• Do we recognize the talent in an unexpected context?
One of the possible conclusions from this experience could be:
• If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world playing the best music ever written, on a 3.5 million dollar instrument, how many other things are we missing?
As adults you hear people say - I need to get back to my roots, get in touch with who I really am. Maybe all we're really saying is what happen to the child in me, when and where'd I leave him behind. And . . . how do I get my child back???
He hasn't gone anywhere, you're just to damn busy to play!!!
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
I'M PROUD OF YOU!!
I know I got your attention with those 4 simple yet powerful words. Take a moment and say that sentence, get a feel for how it feels to say that. Now go find a mirror, and look yourself in the eyes and say it to you. Say it again this time with more sincerity - not just in passing. Don't add anything, no comments, no nothing else just say I'm Proud Of You.
See how powerfully this simple sentence affects you when you read it, say it, see it being said?
OK when was the last time you said it to someone? When was the last time you said it to your children, How about your spouse? My wife said this simple sentence to me yesterday, and her words still echo in my memory.
If your not sure when the last time was . . .it's been to long.
I'm in Santa Clara, it's a Friday 5:00am , I'm at Ernie Reyes school on El Camino, I've just finishing my testing for 5th Degree and am on the deck standing in front of the judges. I'm sweaty, breathing heavy, but composed. Tom Callos says to the 27 UBBT members watching me test "I am so proud of this guy, you don't even know . . . ". That was over 4 years ago and it's still etched in my brain.
"Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I may not ever forget you."
– William Arthur Ward
If you’re using this simple little sentence regularly you are creating ties that bind people together forever. The kind of bond other people don't understand or believe exist.
One of the greatest gifts you can give people is to show appreciation for something they have done. You are thereby giving them support, which often is all they need to keep them on the path they have chosen.
How often have you had someone come up and ask you for encouragement? Most of the time we have no way of knowing when someone needs a little push, a little encouragement, a small sign that they are on the right track.
People don't ask us they ask God, so be his messager.
"Appreciate everything your associates do for the business. Nothing else can quite substitute for a few well-chosen, well-timed, sincere words of praise. They're absolutely free and worth a fortune."
– Sam Walton
We all appreciate a sign that what we are doing is good. Why not give it to others freely? All we have to do is think more about the other person than about ourselves.
But be careful. What I am talking about is genuine appreciation – not that empty smile accompanied by empty words. Not the quick sentence said in hast with little focus or sincerety. I'm talking about get their attention, look right at them, from the deepest part of you. . . "I'M SO PROUD OF YOU!!", or how about "DO YOU KNOW HOW PROUD I AM OF YOU?"
Taking Action:
Who have you Praised today? Make it a point to start thinking about who you are going to give praise to today. Plan it out, practice it a little, making sure the timing is right so that you have maximum effect and positve results.
Making this part of your day will bring you rewards beyond your ability to understand.
Hey. . . . I AM SO VERY VERY PROUD OF YOU!!!!
- Stay Healthy and Strong
See how powerfully this simple sentence affects you when you read it, say it, see it being said?
OK when was the last time you said it to someone? When was the last time you said it to your children, How about your spouse? My wife said this simple sentence to me yesterday, and her words still echo in my memory.
If your not sure when the last time was . . .it's been to long.
I'm in Santa Clara, it's a Friday 5:00am , I'm at Ernie Reyes school on El Camino, I've just finishing my testing for 5th Degree and am on the deck standing in front of the judges. I'm sweaty, breathing heavy, but composed. Tom Callos says to the 27 UBBT members watching me test "I am so proud of this guy, you don't even know . . . ". That was over 4 years ago and it's still etched in my brain.
"Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I may not ever forget you."
– William Arthur Ward
If you’re using this simple little sentence regularly you are creating ties that bind people together forever. The kind of bond other people don't understand or believe exist.
One of the greatest gifts you can give people is to show appreciation for something they have done. You are thereby giving them support, which often is all they need to keep them on the path they have chosen.
How often have you had someone come up and ask you for encouragement? Most of the time we have no way of knowing when someone needs a little push, a little encouragement, a small sign that they are on the right track.
People don't ask us they ask God, so be his messager.
"Appreciate everything your associates do for the business. Nothing else can quite substitute for a few well-chosen, well-timed, sincere words of praise. They're absolutely free and worth a fortune."
– Sam Walton
We all appreciate a sign that what we are doing is good. Why not give it to others freely? All we have to do is think more about the other person than about ourselves.
But be careful. What I am talking about is genuine appreciation – not that empty smile accompanied by empty words. Not the quick sentence said in hast with little focus or sincerety. I'm talking about get their attention, look right at them, from the deepest part of you. . . "I'M SO PROUD OF YOU!!", or how about "DO YOU KNOW HOW PROUD I AM OF YOU?"
Taking Action:
Who have you Praised today? Make it a point to start thinking about who you are going to give praise to today. Plan it out, practice it a little, making sure the timing is right so that you have maximum effect and positve results.
Making this part of your day will bring you rewards beyond your ability to understand.
Hey. . . . I AM SO VERY VERY PROUD OF YOU!!!!
- Stay Healthy and Strong
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